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Book Review

Leona Bergstrom

 

Building Below the Waterline: Shoring Up the Foundations of Leadership. By Gordon MacDonald.

“God, do you have a fresh call for a 60-something guy?”

This question, posed by author Gordon MacDonald on the very last page of his recent book, Building Below the Waterline: Shoring Up the Foundations of Leadership, captured the cry of my heart. The entire book pulses with wisdom, insights and honest transparency. But this particular rhetorical question throbs with urgency as I cross off the final months of life in my “fifties.”

One would think from the title that this is another book on becoming an effective leader in the 21st century church. And yes, it has sage advice for all leaders, particularly pastors, about building a strong inner life that will withstand all of the storms of ministry. But, from my vantage point, it is a manifesto for all of us in midlife who wonder if we have what it takes to minister, much less lead, for a lifetime.

Painting an image of crossing the Colorado plains only to butt up against the impenetrable Rocky Mountains, MacDonald depicts a common angst: “You get the feeling you can’t go anywhere. You’re trapped. The illusion of barrierlessness is inverted. ….That’s the perception of more than one midlifer in leadership. The freshness is gone; the fears of mediocrity, of ineffectiveness, of being lost in the shuffle are malignant.”

Do not despair. Gordon MacDonald doesn’t, and his journey of renewal and transformation inspires one to focus again on calling, mission and finishing extraordinarily well.

 

“It was a significant day when I was hit with the question: What kind of an old man do you want to be? And I opted for growth and grace as my old-age lifestyle. …I looked around and discovered I didn’t know many old men who impressed me with the same traits as in Tennyson’s poem “Ulysses.”* Why? Maybe because most men and women never build a growth plan for the old years. And if you don’t plan for the kind of man or woman you want to be when you are eighty (God willing) and begin building that when you are forty or fifty, it’s not likely going to happen.” (pp 28-29)

What MacDonald presents in this 250-page, can’t-put-it-down thesis, is a personally seasoned guide for identifying mission and purpose; for building a strong inner soul that is marked by a deep, intimate walk with God; and for developing relationships with loved ones that are significant, revitalizing, and FUN. He probes like a skilled surgeon around the infections of the inner soul, calling the reader to repentance and renewal. The anecdote is grace – “The older I become the more I realize my condition as a barbarian loved by my Father. And this may be the most important insight that comes with aging. Almost all old people who are growing have certain common traits. One of them is that they know without equivocation that they are sinners. And they have come to appreciate the central importance of grace.” (p. 37)

The book is actually divided into two parts: The Inner Life of a Leader, and The Outer Life of a Leader. The first section addresses the issue of personal spiritual direction, including advice on journaling, praying, studying and growing. The second section offers profound insight into the public side of ministry – including dealing with church conflict, how to guide a church through change and transition, and how to know when it’s time to leave a congregation. Lessons learned by a man who has been a pastor, leader, author, mentor and long-time disciple of Jesus.

The book caused me to reflect and even weep – tears of repentance as well as of anticipation. Through his writings MacDonald has coached me in experiencing anew that “fresh call” for this almost 60 –year-old gal.

 

You may experience the same.

 

*MacDonald states (p. 28), “I love the words of Tennyson in his poem Ulysses. He imagines the old, travel-worn Ulysses brooding on what one might do for an encore after having seen the world:

Tho’ much is taken, much abides; and tho’
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

 

Leona Bergstrom is Director of Lifetime Ministries (a division of ChurchHealth), a ministry dedicated to assisting churches in developing powerful and effective programs for and by older adults. Along with her husband, Richard, Leona is co-director of 2nd ½ for Him Ministries of the Baptist General Conference. This review was also published with Converge Worldwide | 2nd 1/2 for Him

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Culture Change…

Leona Bergstrom

Scribbled words on newsprint reflect the concerns adult ministries leaders carry in their hearts as they attended the recent Re-Ignite Network Gathering. It wasn’t hard to identify the top issue, as person after person cast his vote by marking an “X” by the questions:

How can we change the church culture so that aging is valued, not discounted?

How do we create a new vision for ministry in the second half of life?

How can we be proactive instead of reactive?

Great questions, but difficult to answer. Culture change is not about restructuring organizations or programs. It’s about changing the shared beliefs, values and behaviors of the people within that organization. And when it comes to aging, churches today have a long way to go to actually change these. In the field of gerontology there is a growing realization that for too long we have perceived our aging journey as going from active adulthood to decrepit elderhood in one giant leap. However, current thinking establishes a new life stage in which adults may be of “retirement” age, but are far from being frail, feeble and infirm. During this life stage adults have an increasing desire to discover their passions, gifts and abilities and reinvest these in new areas of service. They are flocking to find volunteer opportunities, “encore” careers and intentional mentoring relationships. And organizations around the world are welcoming these seasoned, and sometimes sassy, adults. All too often the church is not the organization that highly values this unnamed generation. Thus, we lose the energy and the spiritual impact that might have been.

Clearly there is a need for culture change. We need to change our shared values, beliefs and behaviors to incorporate all ages and stages of life into the community called the church.

 

Leona Bergstrom is Director of Lifetime Ministries (a division of ChurchHealth), a ministry dedicated to assisting churches in developing powerful and effective programs for and by older adults. Along with her husband, Richard, Leona is co-director of 2nd ½ for Him Ministries of the Baptist General Conference. This article was also published in Converge Worldwide BGC  ”Boomers and Beyond” in May 2011.

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The Bergstroms live in Seattle where Richard is Executive Pastor at Northshore Baptist Church in Bothell WA. Leona is Director of Lifetime Ministries, a division of ChurchHealth. She and Richard are Co-Directors of 2nd ½ for Him Ministries/Converge Worldwide (Baptist General Conference). They are co-authors of Amazing Grays: Unleashing the Power of Age in Your Congregation. Leona has worked in the field of gerontology for 35 years. She is an Advisory Council member/CRISTA Senior Living, co-producer of the short film, Musical Chairs, and Secretary of the Board of CASA Network.

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How to Leave Life’s Most Important Gift

Leona D. Bergstrom, Provided by CN Building Adult Ministries Resource Center

There is much talk these days about what it means to leave a legacy. Perhaps it’s because we Boomers are actually beginning to understand our own mortality. In this month alone we personally have buried one friend and heard of three more who recently received dire, perhaps terminal, diagnoses.

It makes one begin to wonder how long one has to live a life that will not just be missed, but will be remembered as significant. We call that “leaving a legacy” – a gift to the next generation that reflects the essence of our life, our values, our faith, our standards and principles, our experience, our lessons, and our deep spiritual beliefs. A legacy has been defined down through the ages as a ‘connection’ – something that will always be associated with a person’s existence.


The legacy passed on to me.

I was born in 1951, which plops me right in the camp of Baby Boomers. I was raised in a Christian family, learned all of the Bible stories via the flannelgraph board and had thirteen years worth of perfect attendance bars on my Sunday school pin. I attended countless potlucks, played the accordion for “special music” at Sunday evening service, and faithfully went to youth “Singspirations.” I was raised in an environment where Christian faith was foundational to our lives and church was central.

One of the dearest people in my life was my Grandma Thomas. We lived on a tiny piece of land on the corner of their 7.5 acre farm in Wheatridge, Colorado. A bean patch separated our houses, but my grandpa just happened to plant in such a way that there was a path right through the patch that connected us. I traveled that path regularly throughout the day so that I could get to Grandma’s house.

I still think of my Grandma, even though she has been with the Lord for over a decade. I particularly remember her during times of planting and harvest. Grandma was a farmer and harvest was the time when the benefit of her hard work was realized. I always loved the harvest! It seemed like there were unending amounts of luscious crops. As a child, I took the abundance of beans, corn, apples, strawberries and raspberries for granted. I thought it all came so easily! But as I grew up and my understanding of life expanded, I began learning the lessons Grandma wanted to teach me about the work it took to have a bountiful harvest.

Grandma taught me that seeds had to be carefully selected and purchased; that the dark, rich soil had to be tilled and prepared for planting; that seeds had to be planted at the right depth, spaced just right – and in straight rows. Then there was the irrigating, hoeing and covering of delicate plants in a hailstorm. And, of course, weeding. All this before we got to bite into a juicy cob of corn!

Grandma also taught me about the meaning of long life and to honor those who were old. I picked berries with my old (really old) aunts who wore funny button-up black shoes and sunbonnets in the fields. They had interesting faces, smelled funny and had fascinating stories to tell. Their impact on my life was profound, and I think of them often as I’ve dedicated my life to serving older adults.

What I learned most from my Grandma was to trust the God of the Harvest. My Grandma was not a preacher (not usually) or an evangelist. She was a little farmwoman from Wheatridge.  But she planted seeds of faith in each of us who knew her. And she had a poem that she would recite for you every time she saw you. During the last years of her life she lived in assisted-living and extended care. Every nurse or assistant that ever cared for her heard that poem. It was an expression of her faith in a caring and sovereign God:

He doth not lead me year by year,

Nor even day by day,

But step-by-step my path unfolds,

My Lord directs my way.


Tomorrow’s plans I do not know;

I only know this minute.

But He will say, ‘This is the way,

By faith now walk ye in it.’


And I am glad that this is so;

Today’s enough to bear,

And when tomorrow comes, His grace

Will far exceed its care.


What need to worry then, or fret?

The God who gave His Son

Holds all my moments in His hands

And gives them one by one.

Author unknown.


When Grandma died there was never a doubt that she would be missed. But her legacy was indisputable. Her life consisted of planting seeds for harvest; seeds of faith that are still producing fruit in the generations living today.

And now I am an older woman and a grandma, these seeds of faith continue to sprout in my life. There are no bean patches between me and my grandsons  (unless you call Interstate-5 a bean patch). Still, I must find ways to clear paths to my house and my life and share with them these seeds of faith that make up my legacy.


A Biblical Legacy

Recently our pastor spoke of the impact that older people have had in his life. He has consistently sought out coach/mentoring relationships and they have profoundly impacted his life and ministry.

He reminded us of the relationship that Elijah and Elisha enjoyed and the impact it has had through the ages. His sermon inspired me to dig deeper; to find a model for leaving a legacy of faith. Once again the Word of God proved profound and relevant.

Elijah stood as a strong and mighty man of God who stared down evil in his society and corruption among those in authority. He was mighty, he was gifted, and he was the voice of God. But one of the greatest lessons Elijah teaches us today is how to leave a legacy of power and faith.

In II Kings 2, Elijah and his ”mentoree”, Elisha, are together on what was to be Elijah’s last day of life. They had been traveling the back-roads of Israel together for over a decade, and on this day Elijah was doing “end of life” work while showing Elisha the power of God. They were at the Jordan when Elijah took off his cloak, rolled it up and stuck it into the wide river. Remarkably the Jordan divided to the right and to the left (reminiscent of the dividing of the Red Sea!) and the two crossed to the other side.

But what amazes me about this passage is what comes next. Elijah asks Elisha, “What do you want from me?” and Elisha answers, “Let me inherit a double portion of your spirit.”

Whoa, the next generation then, and I would guess the next generation of today, wants MORE! Elisha saw what God had done through Elijah and he simply wanted the Spirit to do even more. I see that today as I look at my children and now my grandchildren. They don’t want to play church or Christian games. They want more of the Spirit. They want to fight social injustice and poverty and corruption. They want me to not just plant seeds of faith, they want me to lay down a mantle of leadership for them to pick up and carry! But they don’t just want a soggy mantle or cloak that is thrown in a river – they want one of power and conviction.

So here is the challenge: We can’t have Elishas in this generation if there is no Elijah in the first one! The “Elishas” of this generation need to see and know people who are so alive for God that it captures their hearts and imaginations – so much so that they want to twice as much!

And so Elijah passes on the baton of ministry. It is not just a transaction or a transition: It is a transformation. Elijah says, “I’m done. It’s your turn now.” It changes Elisha’s life. He watches Elijah taken up in a chariot to heaven and he screams in excitement, awe, and probably fear! But then Elisha bends over and picks up that mantle or cloak. He willingly takes on the mantle that Elijah left behind. And amazingly that mantle is full of fire! He touches the Jordan, the waters part, he crosses the Jordan into a new world of ministry that is full of God’s spirit and God’s power.


Passing it on.

The stories of Elijah and Elisha, and the story of my Grandma Thomas fill my heart and mind. Someday when I cross the Jordan, I want to look back and see the generations behind me want to pick up my mantle because it is so on fire and it is so filled with power!

How am I going to leave such a legacy?

First, by walking. I must walk with God personally and know him in the past and in the present. I must know his power daily. I must also walk justly and humbly before the Lord. (Micah 6:8)

Second, by mentoring. I must be involved in sharing the realities of my faith with the next generations. Whether it is my grandson or a young mother from my church, I must invest in the life of another sharing God’s faithfulness in the ups and downs of life.

Third, by leading. Bruce McNicol wrote in the book Ascent of a Leader that anytime we influence a life we are a leader. I need to develop my character, my integrity, honesty and devotion.

Fourth, by discipling. I need to follow the instructions of our Savior in Matthew 28 to make disciples of all nations. Leaving a legacy means introducing people to Christ.

Fifth, by serving. Daily I am more convicted of the importance of living out Isaiah 61 and bring good news to the afflicted, bind up the brokenhearted and comfort those who mourn.

Sixth, by “fragrancing.” By spreading the aroma of Christ (II Corinthians 2:14) wherever I go. To me that means living grace in an ungraceful world.

Last, by fanning the flame. As I reach out to other generations I need to remind them to” fan into flame the gift of God” in each person. (II Timothy 1:6)


Outcomes

I’ve spent a lot of years in management trying to measure outcomes! But, the potential outcome of leaving a legacy of fiery faith far exceeds anything I’ve ever encountered in the business world.

I pray that my children and their children will trust the Lord in all their ways. If in some way my life steers them in that direction, then that will be the greatest outcome of my legacy.

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things that your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live.  Teach them to your children and to their children after them.  Deut. 4:9

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